You are the hero of your life.
Each of us plays the starring role in the drama that is our life. We co-create the script, along with our Higher Power. Sometimes we forget our lines, and so we improvise as best we can. We are heroes, each of us, as we move through the events of the day, refining our character and using our gifts to shape the action of every scene.
We can each be a hero in the drama of recovery. To the casual observer, what we do and say may not appear to be at all heroic. But we - as insiders who are only too well acquainted with our individual limitations - can appreciate and applaud a difficult decision or action.
When we accept our role in life, when we pledge to use our energies to do the best we can, and when we rely on our Higher Power for guidance and support, we will be well on our way toward recovering.
I can be a hero today, even if it doesn't show.
The idea that we can't determine our growth on what other people see on the outside is an important one; the work we have done may not be obvious to other but it can be obvious to ourselves. And in the end that is all it takes to be your own hero.
You are the hero of your life.
Thursday, November 25, 2010 at 11:56 PM
She Wears Flowers in Her Hair
For my wedding, I purchased gobs of faux flowers thinking I might use them to embellish pieces of the wedding, maybe the wedding arch in the arbor- which actually was completely covered with grape leaves, signs around the grounds - only had time to create one, the poles in the tent at the Commander's Mansion - there was way too much color going on after we were done, so not needed. Now I have a whole plastic tub full of $1 a stem flowers and nothing to do with them.
Except, wear them in my hair! I started wearing the extra broken off stems from our centerpiece making during my wedding weekend, cause I couldn't bear the thought of them going to waste. I instantly fell in love with how the bright, vivid colors spruced up my dark hair, made my appearance come to life, made me feel a little more put together, like a great pair of earrings. I have a little flower vase in my bathroom with a full spectrum of colors and styles from which to choose on any given day. Sort of like dress up.
So my new thing, that little something that makes me me is a lovely fake bloom stuck in my bun, my ponytail or behind my ear. Maybe I am out of fashion or behind the times, but I am not sure I care. It makes people stare, smile, maybe even laugh behind their hand, but only cause they don't have the guts to be a little daring in an adult world that seems to prefer leaving fanciful things to the young. I want to be known as She Who Wears Flowers in Her...and I do just because I can.
Kerri Russell |
Garcelle Beauvais |
Courtesy of Lulu's Hut |
Tuesday, September 7, 2010 at 12:53 PM
Photobooth Fun, Lasting Memories
The DIY photobooth at my recent Commander’s Mansion wedding was a huge hit with guests of all ages. As a bonus thank you, we decided to include individual pictures in each our personalized thank you cards. Here are a few of the fun ones!
Monday, August 9, 2010 at 5:28 PM
Best of Boston 2010
Saturday, August 7, 2010 at 2:06 PM
A vegan wedding cake? No, really? YES, really.
Flash forward: Our wedding day, it is hot outside, still air under the tent, and there sits our vegan wedding cake in all her shining glory. Will she withstand the heat, will her vegan-ness come though, i.e cardboard, will the scrolls Jack so lovingly placed on the sort of crusted over frosting stay put long enough to photograph? My trusty baker friend had worked days to devise, create, construct a cake mounting plan, hours slaving in the hot kitchen and many more hours just for the frosting. It sure looked good but looks can be deceiving.
Icing: powdered sugar, shortening, soy margarine, vanilla, coconut extract, soy milk, corn syrup.
Thursday, August 5, 2010 at 9:49 PM
And the show must go on...
So we got married, now what? Not that married life isn't great, although it is sort of like dating life only we wear rings and share money....sometimes.
My issue now is what to do with my time. My brain is constantly brain storming and therefore I have trouble settling on one task. I have a few business ideas, some blogs, some writing, some event planning, lots of wedding stuff on the brain. But I haven't even sent out thank you cards or put away wedding presents. Truth is those things lack the creativity I am yearning for these days. Post wedding blues I guess.
I would love to turn this blog into an advice, life, love, relationship, recovery, empowerment column. Is anyone reading? We will be traveling soon and I need an outlet for that initiative as well. And I have plans to extend my wedding and event planning work and freelance writing with Beantown Bride. So much to think about.
In the meantime, honesty, love and healthy words via my GF Laura who may have gotten them from Dr. Drew.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010 at 9:34 PM
WE DID IT!!
Well one Brazilian dinner, two drinking parties, one Corningware Celebration and Matrimonial Jubilee, one rehearsal + set up, over 50 Knowles/Hachmeister/Smart/Monteau/Lund/Snell/Holder/Leth Family members, seven members of the Brazilian delegation, and one tear filled, stuck shoe, perfectly orchestrated Commander's Mansion wedding ceremony later, we are hitched and couldn't be happier! We had a HELLUVA party, complete with Samba and Sangria, a photobooth with tons of props, gorgeous and CHEAP flowers from Trader Joe's, lots of music, laughter, love and oh yeah, great food from Ross at Culinary Inspiration, colors so vibrant they make you giddy with excitement! This was thought up, planned, purchased, orchestrated and enjoyed by us. DIY is the way to go....lots and lots of time and attention to every single last detail but we wouldn't have it any other way. Of course, we could not have done it without so much support, guidance and love and I thank my moms, Juliano's mom and all my GF and family members for their help.
We spent a week in Bar Harbor with the intentions of heading to Brazil for an extended honeymoon and another wedding. More on that soon.....as this blog will go back to its original intention, you know for the SO MANY reader who were pining for it. HA!
Here are some photos from Darren Pellegrino to savor!
Mellissa and Juliano's Wedding
Friday, July 16, 2010 at 4:38 PM
One month to go - looking back..
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 at 9:10 PM
Beantown Bride Post - The Groom
at 9:01 PM
The countdown...
Today it is 55 days to our wedding and I feel like I am woefully unprepared. They say the last two months are hell on the way to heaven...ok...there is not they, I said it. Yeah...that is what it feels like somedays, I am not able to enjoy the engagement because the invites are out, the tree is not made, the notes not cut, the napkins not ordered. Everyday we move closer, everyday another things gets added just as something is completed, so you never really get to cross something off your to-do list. It stays the same.
No matter how many deadlines there are, I officially bypass all of them. I think I need to start working backwards, admit my frailty, humanity and my upper limits and just be wabi sabi as my mother says.
The wabi sabi aesthetic is sometimes described as one of beauty that is "imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete".[1] It is a concept derived from the Buddhist assertion of the Three marks of existence (三法印 sanbōin?), specifically impermanence.
Thanks goodness for Wikipedia.
This is a rambling post.
Currently I need to finish -
- invitations - 3 weeks late
- veil and shoes
- wish tree
- arch decoration
- wine bottles
- maps
- dictionary
- ribbon wands
- vows and ceremony
- music
- our dance
- flowers
- hair trial
- bathroom baskets
- programs
- signs
- hooks
So I have a few things, not in that order. It is all possible. And what is not, will be Wabi Sabi. F*** wabi sabi.
Monday, May 3, 2010 at 3:49 PM
What's in a color? Apparently everything!
Pink: A softer, girlish choice, pink is the sweeter side of red. A delicate hue, pink represents a sensitive heart that is affectionate and nurturing. The bride surrounded with pink has a maternal grace and compassion and a desire for protection or shelter. The rosy hue fan may also have a strong personality, but one that is willing to share.
Friday, April 2, 2010 at 1:45 PM
Parasols are pretty
Monday, March 29, 2010 at 12:43 PM
My two dresses went to therapy....
Monday, March 15, 2010 at 3:37 PM
Beantown Bride Post!
I was asked to do some writing for the blog Beantown Bride and today, my first submission to them was published. How exciting! It is a Real Wedding piece on Jason and Barrett, a very sweet couple, who were married last year. The task was to summarize their relationship and wedding in 250 word, no easy feat! But here it is.......enjoy and stay tuned for more posts to come!
Guests dined on grilled chicken and cannelloni at long, family style tables with simple green hydrangea centerpieces. The couple gave each guest an individualized jar of homemade mustard. Sun streamed through large reception hall windows, as the newlyweds danced to Allison Krauss "When You Say Nothing at All." Remembering their special day, "It was probably the hottest day of the summer. Everyone was dripping with sweat on the dance floor!" Heat aside; they agree the most memorable part of the day was "I Do."
Wedding Day Details:
Photography by:Gwyneth Colleen
Gown: Romona Keveza
Florist: Halls of Tara
Caterer: Gourmet Caterer Boston
Venue: Roxbury Latin School
Music: DJ Ed Mullen
Wednesday, March 3, 2010 at 2:50 PM
Inspiration for the day - Blue
I am in love with the color combo of our wedding, festive fuchsia, caribbean blue and saffron yellow. It is fresh, vibrant and really speaks to us. And what I love most? Apparently the colors we chose are now the hot colors of the year, according the The Knot. Yup, you heard it here first, we are hot. I love being "in" "hot" "trendy" although I don't need The Knot to tell me so. HA!
Hello Sangria...our signature drink. I love this picture!
This may just be too beautiful to eat. From our friends at Cakes and More
Monday, February 22, 2010 at 11:14 AM
Inspiration for the day - Centerpieces
Ahhh....I love these. So classy, simple and unfussy....they have a confident personality.
Friday, February 19, 2010 at 3:21 PM
Paper Scraps + Celery = Fabulous Gift Wrap
Scraps of tissue paper (white or colored)
Scissors
Paint (I used acrylic, but you can try other options)
Celery stock base. You will need to have cut this as smoothly as possible to leave a nice straight stamping surface)
Art tray or plate (basically just a flat surface that you can pour your paint onto)
Standard Hole Punch
Large craft punches in the sizes you wish
Twine, ribbon, or string.
Create sturdier gift wrap using paper grocery bags (for small gifts) or kraft papers.
Don't forget to save the wrapping after your gifts have been unwrapped. Even if it's been torn you can still create gift tags, etc from the leftovers!
Friday, February 5, 2010 at 8:36 PM